We become the people we spend time with

Tags: Human Behaviour Habits

Humans are social animals and tend to mimic or adopt the behaviour of those with whom we associate. We are most likely to adopt the habits of people we are close to (friends, family), the many (the tribe), and the powerful (those with status and prestige).

James Clear suggests that associating with people who already engage in habits or behaviours we wish to adopt for ourselves can help us adopt new habits. He recommends finding a group for which our desired behaviour is a normal behaviour, and with which you already have something in common.

Of course, the inverse is true: we ought to avoid groups that participate in behaviours we wish to avoid.


Clear 2018